I went to Target to return some pajamas I purchased for my son a couple of days after Christmas and to my surprise, right by the entrance, on full display, were….wait for it…
Valentine’s Day cards!
As I went further into the store I discovered the Christmas decorations– candies, stockings, trees– which were just there two days before (I know because I had to grab a few last minute gifts), had been replaced by rows and rows of ‘Be Mine’ heart-shaped boxes and fake roses.
No lie, until I walked in the store I was a “content” (using that loosely) single but by the time I left the checkout, I wanted to join Black People Meet, Christian Mingle, and any other dot-com dating website Google could find for me. I loathed the idea of spending (another) Valentine’s Day, valentine-less.
I immediately began to rehearse the worse-case-scenario (i.e., being 80 and single) and I was tempted to push God out the way and handle the match making on my own because He clearly didn’t understand that my hopeless romantic self needs somebody to be hopelessly romantic with and that I needed that somebody, like yesterday.
But then, this came to mind…
Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God Philippians 4:6 AMP
I realized that although Target (and every other store for that matter) has no chill when it comes to their Valentine’s Day marketing, I needed to chill! Thinking of all of the hypothetical situations that could or could not happen would not make Mr. Right appear on my doorstep. In fact, the anxiety I felt from seeing a stuff animal decked out in its best red bow-tie made me question if I had really entrusted God with my singleness. Had I really surrendered that part of my life to Him? (It also made me realize that I am a little bit of a drama queen)
I found this on Rick Warren’s blog a few moments ago and it really put into perspective what “surrendering ” means. He writes:
Surrendering your life means:
- Following God’s lead without knowing where he’s sending you;
- Waiting for God’s timing without knowing when it will come;
- Expecting a miracle without knowing how God will provide;
- Trusting God’s purpose without understanding the circumstances.
You know you’re surrendered to God when you rely on God to work things out instead of trying to manipulate others, force your agenda, and control the situation. You let go and let God work. You don’t have to always be in charge. Instead of trying harder, you trust more.
YOU KNOW HOW DIFFICULT BULLET-POINT 1-2-3 AND 4 IS! BUT…THEN AGAIN, HOW DIFFICULT ARE THE CONSEQUENCES WHEN I TRY TO TAKE MY LIFE INTO MY OWN HANDS? THE LORD KNOWS THE DESIRES OF MY HEART (OF YOUR HEART) BUT HE ALSO KNOWS WHAT I DO OR DO NOT NEED IN THIS SEASON. IT IS UP TO ME TO ACCEPT, ALTHOUGH I MAY NOT FULLY COMPREHEND, THAT WHAT HE WITHHOLDS IS FOR MY GOOD AND WHAT HE PROVIDES IS FOR MY GOOD.
Valentine’s Day is exactly 14 days away and I refuse to allow my countenance to fall because I’m single. I refuse to turn up my nose because there is bound to be a flood of engagements on my Facebook feed. I will rejoice with those who rejoice and take my own self out for a meal (yes, I said own self)
Originally Posted February 1, 2016