Crown Tip Thursdays, what works for me as I dive deeper into my walk with Jesus!
Today's Topic: Accountability Partners
Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
As an introvert, I like keeping my circle small. So, I have five friends. Each one of them adds something different to my life. I have one friend who will tell me exactly how she feels about a situation, no holds barred. I have another friend, who has a heart of gold and would give the shoes off her back if it meant the other person wouldn't have to go without. My other friend is an "I'll dog you professionally" type of woman, she doesn't play. Then I have the "but are you okay?" friend, she wants to make sure you're good and will lead a caravan to your house just to be sure that you are. My last friend, for about 13 years, she has been my world traveling, mission-focused accountability partner.
We met in college, I can't remember the exact details and although she later transferred to another school to finish up her degree, we have remained close. Within the last six years or so, possibly longer, she has been holding me accountable.
I don't think I formally asked her but that's exactly what she does. I don't know how many times I've texted her about an issue that I'm having, whether spiritually, emotionally, or physically and she will ask just the right questions to help me try to make a God-led decision. I KNOW she prays for me and it is encouraging to know that someone is rooting for you to win spiritually.
An accountability partner, in my opinion, is an essential part of your Christian life. As it says in Ecclesiastes when one falls the other is there to pick the other up. Here are a few things you should look for and things you should do, before bestowing the accountability partner role to someone.
Do: Pray– Everything begins and ends with prayer (so I’m learning). Ask God for discernment while you look for an accountability partner. Ask Him to break down your walls to be able to share with the person He brings into your life.
Look for: Maturity– the person you elect to hold you accountable, should be spiritually mature.She can be the same age as you, your elder…I don’t think the age matters. What matters is that she has a sound relationship with the Heavenly Father (the blind can’t lead the blind, right?) Read Titus 2:3-5.
Do: Listen– your accountability partner is meant to help you grow in your walk with the Lord. She may tell you things that are difficult to hear or encourage you to do things that are out of your comfort zone (man, listen). Of course, you want to be discerning about what advice she gives you but don’t let what she says fall on deaf ears. Listen and take it back to the Lord and let Him lead you from there.
Look for: A woman– not sure if everyone would agree but I say, eliminate the distractions.
Do: Find someone you can hold accountable– you shouldn’t always be the receiver. Once you begin to mature, find someone you can pour in to, pray for, and “read” (in the nicest sense of the word). Help them in the areas you have grown in so they can also be encouraged in their journey.
What did you look for in your accountability partner?